Since sociopaths only put forth effort if there’s something in it for them, they’re quick to react in a negative way if their partner asks for something in return. “If not physical abuse, their relationships are frequently characterized by verbal and emotional abuse, frequent yelling, [and] saying insulting or degrading things,” Dr. Turner says. It’s not uncommon for them to become a completely different person when they get angry. They turn on their partners fairly quickly, especially if they already took what they want from them or the relationship. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit thehotline.org.
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“I don’t have time for this.”
Sociopaths are all about doing things that make themselves look good. Because of that, Zukerman says they’ll use phrases that deflect responsibility away from them. Ultimately, they don’t care if you are hurt by something they did. “Generally, sociopaths do not care about the feelings of others and they are less concerned about who they might hurt or step on on their way to reaching their goal,” Dr. Ho says. “They don’t express empathy, and if they do, it’s usually a put-on emotion that they don’t feel but are doing so in order to fit in with society and get what they want out of another person.”
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“You’re the best.”
“A sociopath’s motive is power, control, and dominance no matter what the cost,” Zukerman says. Showering their target with compliments, such as, “you’re the best” or “you’re the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen” is just one of their go-to manipulation tricks. “They’ll often use charm to lure their targets, and it works,” she says. While this may be a sincere compliment coming from someone else, note if something doesn’t feel right or if the person is laying it on thick.
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“I want to spend every second with you.”
