The phrase “I don’t really remember it,” when it concerns a part of one’s history, can also have meaning. The German website Familie.de explains that some memories can remain hazy when the brain tries to protect the person from painful events.
How can we break free from these automatic behaviors?
The media outlet Top Santé advises starting by identifying them, without feeling guilty or trying to make them disappear immediately.
When one of these phrases comes up again and again, take a few moments to ask yourself what you’re really feeling and what need lies behind it . Over time, you might be able to try a more accurate formulation, for example: ” I need help ” or “This is important to me, even though I’m afraid of bothering you.”
The goal isn’t to never say those phrases again, but to understand what they reveal about your story. Identifying them is often the first step in breaking free from patterns that are no longer useful.
