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It’s important to note that there’s a difference between positive and negative obsessive thinking — anxiety-ridden thoughts about your partner or relationship are another red flag. “If you are thinking about your partner, appreciating the times you have together or thinking about something fun you did over the weekend, this is normal,” she explains. “But when you start to worry or become insecure, it changes your behavior and prevents you from enjoying your own life, and therefore is no longer mentally healthy.”

If you feel like your constant musings about your partner are becoming an issue for whatever reason, there are steps you can take to reel it in. Shapiro recommends first assessing whether you’ve had these thoughts about previous partners and whether these obsessive thoughts are only specific to your relationships or whether you struggle with this in other areas of your life. Understanding these thought patterns better can help you to hone in on how to break them up.

Here’s How To Stop Thinking About Your Partner *Too* Much

When you can’t stop thinking about your SO, Shapiro recommends reminding yourself about when you’ll be seeing them next, whether it’s dinner that night or a concert that weekend. “Reminding yourself that you will have time to spend together in the near future may help you contain these thoughts and leave your mind open to focus on other things (ie. your job, family and friends) while you are apart,” she says. “Also, listening to a song or looking at (one) picture can be a reminder of your partner and help ease your thoughts.” She also advises setting some boundaries for yourself if need be — such as giving yourself permission to think about your partner on your coffee break and resolving to focus on your work assignment when you get back to your desk. “Allow yourself to have these thoughts but set limits so they don’t overtake your day will help manage your thoughts and feelings,” she adds.